Why Won’t He Marry Me?! In a Word: Ego.

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by Why won’t he marry you? I could be nice and say it’s because he’s not ready, or he’s getting himself together to be the man you need him to be. But the truth probably is he doesn’t feel superior to you in any way that matters to him. Yeah, his ego won’t let him. […]

How to Prepare for Football Season–BAAD GIRLL Method


by Be An Asset During Games; Ignorance Ruins Love Lives (BAAD GIRLL) I must admit I was shocked to find how frequently women out here are experiencing issues because of some sport(s). My timeline is full of jokes about losing your man for half the year or longer, how hard it will be to find […]

Are We in a Relationship?


by Why do women go around asking guys about their relationship status? Like what are we? What are we doing? Well, are you in it with him or not? Why don’t you know? Sure; ask him and give him a chance to explain it to you. Because whether we know it or not, men do […]

Is it Small, or Just Not Big?


by Think about the difference here. Small packages can be frustrating. I know, like you’ve taken your time getting ready, smelling good, mentally engaging, etc. You’re hot and bothered, throbbing, pulsating and stuff. He gets there, butters you up real good, most likely with great attention to important details…and then…you don’t feel a thing. Girrlllll! […]

Lost Boys


by What in the hell has happened to all the grown men?! What’s my motivation? Yes, I’m gonna be doing some cussin, and I’m completely aware that I’m about to start an argument, but it has to be said–today’s man is represented by a bunch of baby boys with joystick addiction and zero ambition. Side […]

The Interview Went Well


by How come whenever you say you’re a realist, people automatically deem you cynical, pessimistic? My guess is they’re hopeless optimists who hate for you to rain on their parade. But from where I stand, a realist is a person who has learned to strike a delicate balance between optimism and pessimism, based on facts, […]

It’s Not Always Obvious…

by Today’s thought comes with an excerpt from one of my novels. I chose this piece because of the letter on the Steve Harvey Show this morning, and how often we miss the subtle and excuse the not-so-subtle signs of abuse, but never call it what it is–abuse. And the thing is nobody said these […]

What are you doing?


by I was so pissed last night about so many things, I figured I’d give somebody a piece of my mind. I can’t be quiet anymore, cause these headaches are trying to come back. It’s those kids. All the kids. I can hear somebody right now, sitting reading the paper, saying, “It’s a shame before […]

The Signature Movement–get it?

by    So happy spring break is like over. I can’t with these people at this age. I need my moments to recharge and reflect without somebody talking to me all day. I wrote about it. I’m also over back-talk, sneaking to watch TV in the middle of the night, and people having nothing to […]